Most of us have read about the Proverbs 31 wife, and while that is certainly my goal through Christ who gives me the strength, what else does the book of Proverbs have to say about wives and women?
“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones.” ~ Proverbs 12:4 Okay, the first part of this verse sounds good, but NOT the last!
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.” ~ Proverbs 14:1 I want to build up and encourage those in my household, not tear them apart. I have seen that done, and oh, it is devastating.
“Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it than a house full of feasting with strife.” ~ Proverbs 17:1 As women, we set the mood in the home. Is it a place of joy and peace, or anger and strife?
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.” ~ Proverbs 18:22 I want to be a “good thing”, a blessing to my husband!
“…the contentions of a wife are a constant dripping.” ~ Proverbs 19:13b Oh dear. Who wants to be as annoying as a dripping faucet? Not me!
“…a prudent wife is from the LORD.” ~ Proverbs 19:14b The Hebrew word for prudent is “sakal”, meaning to consider, comprehend, wisely understand. What a good quality to have – straight from God.
“It is better to live in a corner of a roof, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” ~ Proverbs 21:9 Ouch. The King James Version uses the word “brawling”. The Hebrew word here is “midyan”, meaning strife and contentions. Do we brawl, pick fights, start arguments?
“It is better to live in a desert land, than with a contentious and vexing woman.” ~ Proverbs 21:19 Goodness, a brawling AND “vexing” woman! The King James Version uses the word “angry”. The Hebrew word is “ka`ac”, meaning provocation, grief, frustration, vexation. Wow, I do NOT want to be THAT woman!
“It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” ~ Proverbs 25:24 Again? Ladies, apparently we are known for this problem. Let’s check our hearts and ask God to help us to NOT be contentious!
“A constant dripping on a day of steady rain and a contentious woman are alike; he who would restrain her restrains the wind, and grasps oil with his right hand.” ~ Proverbs 27:15-16 Wow, okay, we had better pay close attention! There is nothing a man can do to stop our “brawling” and nagging – only God working in our hearts can accomplish this change of behavior and attitude.
And now for some highlights from Proverbs 31:
“An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life…She extends her hand to the poor; and she stretches out her hands to the needy…Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying, ‘Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.’ ” ~ Proverbs 31:10-12, 20-21, 25-29
Please take note, ladies: This does not describe outward appearance or beauty. None of these scriptures talk of a woman’s looks, good or bad, or of a woman’s weight, good or bad. (Although, verse 17 does tell us her arms are strong!) The world may judge us from the outside, but God looks at our hearts. Our character, our attitude, our choices, our actions, our LOVE – those are the things that matter. Don’t listen to Satan’s lies. Listen to the words of God and seek first His kingdom, His ways, His love. Let God live in, and love through, you.
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” ~ Proverbs 31:30